Embracing Authenticity and Self-Care: Life Lessons with Dana Grant

Welcome to the Amberly Lago show. Stories of true grit and grace. Thanks for tuning in to the Amberly Lago show today. I have someone very special. If you are ready to up level your life, your business, if you feel stuck, if you feel challenged. I have Dana Grant with us and she is an international master of life coach, business coach. She speaks all over the world and she helps people really lead with their intuition on making decisions. So she's going to give us some points on how she has turned tragedy into triumph and now how she helps others do the same. She's the co founder of cauliflower foods and she's been awarded so many different awards. That'll all be in the show notes. I want to get right to this so you can learn from this amazing lady. Thank you, Dana, for being on the show.

I'm so glad to.

Oh, my goodness. Thank you. So I miss you, y'. All. She was a former Mastermind member and I used to get to see her gorgeous face every week.

Oh, yes.

And now you are doing. You're all over the place. You're getting ready to go to Chicago. You're like traveling. You flew in all the way from California to Texas just to be on the show. So thank you. Thank you for being here and, and so good to see you.

You too. I'm so happy to be here.

Yeah. Yeah. Well, I want to really get into it because there's a lot of people that they are struggling. They feel like, you know, they're never going to get out of addiction or they're never going to get away from, you know, self limiting beliefs or thinking they're not good enough or just hiding from the world. And you have overcome a lot and it's led you. I mean, you've coached for a long, long time. But now I think it's really starting to like, boom for you because you've gotten raw and real and I think people connect with that. So can you tell us a little bit about what you have overcome? And you've lost £75. You've really transformed. Instead of just focusing on your clients, you're like, hey, what about I need to take care of me?

Right?

And so what was it that was that turning point for you that allowed you to really go, okay, this is it. We got one life and I got to live it up.

Well, you nailed it right there. We've got this one life, but we tend to think we've got all this time and we don't. You know, I just woke up one day and it was at your event in North Carolina, and we took that picture hugging on stage. And I'm like, that is not me. I did not think it was me. And I just knew at that moment I had to make the decision, and I had to be consistent with that decision. But being skin, the pendulum swung for years with health, wellness, skinny, overweight, and I just. It had to stop. So I chose something different. My intention was to be healthy the rest of my life, and I did not know what that really looked like. I had to really encompass every day. So I started with one thing I could do. I could walk. So I started walking. I knew I could eat protein, I could eat water. And I started incorporating small things in micro, not macro. If we do the macro, we're gonna. I can't even tell you how many false starts I had.

Oh, yeah? Yeah. And I love that you share yourself walking on your social media, or you would be on a walk and give. Send me a voice memo about your walks. And now £75 later. But you're an example for your clients that they can do the same. And others. Not just your clients, but others. I mean, you lead retreats. You speak all over the place. What. When was it that you realized that you had this special ability? You were very intuitive, Like, I want to say the word psychic.

Yeah.

Is that wrong of me?

Well, no. They say, don't, you know, I was born. You know, they say it was born that way. What was that? L' Oreal says that I was born that way. But it frightened me. It always frightened me. So I didn't believe that you could be connected to God and believe and do that. So I was in conflict. So in that conflict, I never trusted myself. So I would second guess everything, which led to a lot of. I won't say bad decisions, but big learning curves. So my most of my life, it was a big learning curve and a big learning curve. And I just woke up one day and I said, you do know. You do know the answer. But this balancing back and forth like, I don't know. So I just started listening to that and teaching people how to listen to that. And it's quite different than listening to your gut, which is attached to your spleen, which is all your fear. It's okay if a lion's chasing you to listen to that fear, but most of the time it's not. So our intuition feels a little bit different. It's a knowing we know the answer.

How do you teach somebody that?

Well, it's internal. It's never external. You Know, we, we. But if we don't trust ourselves, we're going to go external, we're going to ask someone, and I ask people for everything. I would always need to know and I'd always want that second opinion and then I'd weigh it out and it was never the right answer. So right or wrong, you will move exponentially. If you make your own decision, even if it isn't the one you thought it would be, it will move you closer. And we talked about that today. I got here on east coast, our west coast time and East Coast. So I was, you know, got here at the wrong time. However it led to the right connections, the right move.

It sure did.

Yeah. My day unfolded in a beautiful way and I couldn't, I couldn't imagine not having it. I got on the Jeff Crueley show. I mean, I mean, what's wrong with that? I mean, look at how it was so guided because. And I believe that even in the mistakes were guided.

Yeah, I really don't believe in coincidence. I really don't. I think that everything you're supposed to be, you're exactly where you're supposed to be at the right time. And even this happens to me all the time. I don't know if it happens to you, but I can think about somebody and I'll get a text from them. That happened twice this morning. I knew you were going to say that. That happened twice. So we just had the in person mastermind retreat at my house. And I'm up speaking and I was talking about Coach Burt, and then I started talking about Ed Mylett, and I look at my phone and Coach Burt, text me. Look at my phone again. There's my let. Text me. I'm like, okay, this is weird. Then I started talking about David Meltzer and I look, I went, went to Brian Bogert, who was there at the event with us, and I said, brian, you won't believe this. I said, now look, I said it happened a third time. I said, maybe I should start thinking about Oprah. Then Oprah's gonna call me.

Brilliant. And we could take it that, you know, you don't believe in coincidences. Everything is guided. And if we use universal laws and we look at, you know, people get it wrong with abundance and manifesting and quantum leaping. You have to act as if, see, you're already thinking about them and you call it in. Everything is energy, which means everything's on a frequency. So you're on that frequency and then boom, you're calling it in.

That's happened with us.

Oh, a zillion times.

Yeah.

Where I get a message or you get a message, and it's like, I was just going to reach out. And that's just a frequency, and it's a vibrational frequency. And if you notice the people that you called in were on your same frequency, they're people that you're connecting with and that you're. We're not calling in different frequencies. You're calling in the frequency you want. So, Oprah, you're on that frequency.

Yeah, I'm going to call her in.

That's right. Call her in.

And. And, yeah, I. I think you had talked about, like, you're doing a new book and talked about, hey, Hay House is publishing your book.

Well, I have Game Changers doing the. The second one will be a little longer, as you told me in the beginning, where I thought I could just, like Dana, write your proposal. It's going to be a little longer than a year. It's a year and a half. So it's. It's a. So that will. This one will come out in a few months, and then the second one will come out next year, maybe even 2026, depending. It's not a quick. It's not a quick process.

Oh, it's not. I mean, look, I started writing my book in November, last November. I'm like, oh, my goodness, it's already been a year. Oh, that's when I had the conversation with the publisher, actually, and I had my first conversation, and I said, I will not be able to start writing this until after my event in, like, in April. And let me tell you, they were on me. Like, did you start, what are you going to give us? You know, and then you turn it in and it's not even out until March of 2025. And about a month ago, they said, we need you to go ahead and it's on Barnes and Noble. Go ahead and push it out. And I'm like, really?

Yeah.

Well, what do I say? It's a process, isn't it?

It's a process, but it's so rewarding. Yeah. Well, I can't wait for your book to come out.

I can't wait for yours. Tell me a little bit about what it is. What inspired you to write the book?

You know, I had a whole different concept of what I was going to do. And that will be Hay House. This one is going to be about what I teach and what I have personally gone through. So I'm going to tell a story and I'm gonna. The book is entitled the lie. Because most of the stories that come from our subconscious are not true. They're not even our stories. But people are programmed every day and they're sleepwalking, you know, like the Matrix and I. And we don't know what is true and what's not because we've done it so repetitiously. And I just want them to know that you have another option. There's another. There's a truth here. But it's going to require change. And that change, especially if we have any form of trauma or a core wound, is safety. We're going to rub up against the trauma and our ego is going to say, oh, no, we don't know that. Go back. But it's actually, we need to keep leaning in and keep stepping. And I say micro because macro jumps are terrifying when you think there's danger.

Yeah.

And it could be just newness is danger.

Oh, yeah. And I mean, I mean something as simple as this. Okay, this is ridiculous. But driving here, they've done so much construction.

Oh, yeah.

And you know, I haven't lived here that long and I get like, I'm driving like this because I'm like, oh my gosh, where's the road? And the GPS is telling me to do something different because it doesn't even know the new routes. And it gets like, oh my gosh, A little nerve wracking. Scary. But the more I do it, I'm like, oh, yeah, I know that. More confident, More confident. That's something simple. It's the same thing with stepping on a stage. I remember, you know, the first time I was super nervous, almost throwing up, nervous. I still get nervous, but I turn it into excitement. And the more you do it, you're like, yes, I'm going to. I'm not going to worry about it. I know that I can do it. And it starts to build your confidence.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

Different, different, same adrenaline, different side of a coin. You can flip it like that. I love that you said that. But you need that adrenaline to get up there and deliver and to do what you need to do, but turning it into excitement and you can feel it. It's palpable. Your last keynote was palpable.

Well, yours. Okay, so Dana, not only she was in the mastermind, she took the stage and you crushed it. It was.

Thank you.

Unbelievable. You were so amazing. You really opened up for the first time, I think in public, like on a stage.

Oh, absolutely.

About your, your truth. And it was powerful. I got goosebumps just now talking about It. Because it was like you let people see the real you.

Yeah.

And people, I think, are just craving that authenticity.

Well, yeah. And we're so blasted, Amberly.

Yeah.

We're so blasted every day with everything looking the same and sounding the same. And I just couldn't tolerate it anymore. I just thought, I'm getting too old to not show up and just own, take ownership and accountability for this life. And if it's going to transform into what I want, it has to be all in. I have to be all in. And that's what the book is about. I'm all in. There's nothing, like I told you today, nothing is off the table. And you know this. We have to meet ourselves there, and then we can pay that forward, if not. And you always said, there's just something. There's just something.

You would. You would. You would. We would go over your keynote and you would start to share. And I'm like, no, no, that's. That's not it. We need to get. No, no. We need to get really into what's going on. And I think something. I can't wait for people to read this in a book. Yeah. And it's. I mean, it's going to be something that's needed year after year after year. It'll. It'll always. People will want to read that book and over and over. Yeah, but we took a boat ride.

Yeah.

And I.

Boy, did we take a boat ride. That was a boat ride.

You know what that was? It was powerful.

Well, I didn't abandon myself. Normally I say, you know, when you're telling stories, you're out of your integrity. You're out of the boat. You've abandoned yourself again. I stayed in the boat.

Yeah.

Figuratively. Well, there were alligators there, too, weren't there?

Well, Ruby went with us and she was telling everybody, oh, there's big catfish. There's actually alligators here. There's, you know, but it was just such a. There's something, I think, that's just magical about the water.

Yes.

And then the group of ladies and.

Yes.

And just knowing that you're in a safe place, you shared something that you hadn't shared with other ladies. Can you share that with us today?

Yeah. I had never shared that before. And, you know, it was. We were so. You're right. Where there's flow, there's nurture. And I knew I was in a nurturing space, and it was an opportunity to share what I had been through and to show my legs, which are. I've lost A lot of muscle because I had 17 forms of staff, and they're very scarred. And that isn't something that I had ever talked about before. In fact, people intimate to me don't know. You know, good friends don't know. I don't show them. But that day I did. I pulled up that little flowy jumpsuit. That day was a. Was pivoted on. Pivoting in so many ways. I mean, that was the transition to where I am now, a year later.

Wow.

I mean, it's about a year. Yeah. A little over.

Was it a little over a year? Yeah, I was just thinking of that

because it was like, now or never.

A memory popped up, and I think it was like, in November or something. I don't know. It was a little over a year. And you shared the story of your legs and how you used to always cover them up.

Always? Always. Well, not only cover them. How do you share something like that without telling the story? And I told the story that day, so I think it was that crack that let the light in. And there was so much love and acceptance. And I think that anyone that's out there that feels shame or they can't. They're hiding, you know, needs to be in a group like that of safe women. You're a collector of safe women. You're a collector. You're an attraction for women. And you hold space beautifully.

Well, thank you. Thank you.

Well, you held the space for me, and you led by example. I mean, look what you've been through. Look at what you. It gave me permission when you did. I said, what are you waiting for?

Yeah, because I get on the boat and shorts with my leg all scarred

up, but you look beautiful.

And I was just like, oh, well, because I just am ready to have fun.

And you jumped off the top.

Yeah, you know, jumped off the top of the boat. I did that again, by the way. I was the only one who did that this time. Yeah, I was the only one who got on the slide, too.

No kidding.

Yeah.

Well, this time I would have been on the slide, too.

Yeah.

I'm not sure I would have fit on the slide before.

Well, I'm just blown. You look so gorgeous and.

Oh, thank you.

£75. And isn't it freeing for you to go, you know what? I'm owning it. This is my story.

It's. It's hard to conceptualize that. And there's a piece of me that wants to say, oh, don't share that. It's so shameful. Well, I'm not done yet. So it's going to be £85 when I'm done. That's a human being. I'm more concerned with what got me there.

What did get you there?

You know, I would say unhealed trauma. I focused on work. Work was great. Work's always great. But body, mind, soul, spirit, it has to be aligned. And I was out of alignment, and I was. I think it was the last component of that pendulum always swinging. I just had an eating disorder for years. I was underweight, and then the minute that stopped, I was overweight. And this time, it had to be different. I said, I cannot do this anymore. That was probably the highest I'd ever been. And I look at the pictures, and I don't recognize myself, but I recognize the pain. I look at it, and I see someone who's in deep pain and suffering.

Or even as a way of. Do you think of it as a way of protecting.

Oh, absolutely, absolutely. Because what went with that was it took me off stages. It took me out of the room. I would avoid a lot of things. I still showed up. People will say, you still showed up? You still. Yeah, I did, but I was selective, and now I'm not selective. I should show up because I had the energy to do it. And on my retreat in Italy last year, I tripped three times because I was. I was just not. My body was not in balance. And I said, I. If I do retreats, international retreats, I've got to be healthier from this point forward.

I remember. I remember that. Yeah.

Well, I think I talked to you while I was in Italy, and I said, italy, I. This. I'm Chang. This has to change now.

Yeah. Well, what would you suggest someone do who is like, well, that's great for her. She had that realization, and she did the. You know, what is the first step that somebody can do,

you know, to make a change?

And whether that's weight loss or whether that is. Whether that's recovering from addiction, whether that is which.

I've done it all. Let's face it. The book is they're gonna. I always say, don't hire a life coach unless you've seen their life. You've seen how. How they've overcome it, and how are they now? What are they doing? Are they in practice with it? But I would say the first thing is. And you know, this one. Accountability. I had to be honest with myself.

Yeah.

I can't be honest with the world completely. Or if I. But it was that.

It's out of integrity. And I think People feel that.

Oh, absolutely. And I was out of integrity in this is what I teach. Even though I'm holding myself accountable for it. I wasn't being honest about what I could do about it. And I think we have to have that different conversation with ourselves. Yeah.

You know, that heart, it's tough. It's hard.

Yeah. It's.

The hardest thing is to be in acceptance and take accountability. But it's life changing.

Well, and how many women. I mean, I coach so many women that are on Adderall for ADHD or, and they're overdoing it or pain medicine and they're, and they're hiding and they're lying and I'm, and they, they unpack it here. But they're not even honest with themselves. It's their first step to share it. But I shared it too. But nothing stopped when we, when we're still defending our actions because we need it or this or we're making excuses.

Excuses. Yeah. Or defense. Yeah, I know. Because I mean, I got some sober.

Yeah.

And for a long time I thought, you know, I, I, I don't know how I can get through this pain on a daily basis without taking a drink. I did not know how I could do it. And you're exactly right. I had to get radically honest with myself. Take accountability. Accountability. And reach out for help. I needed help.

Yeah. It's life changing when we meet ourselves there, like on your stage. I said I stood there and I was gonna die if I took that medicine. And I ripped it up. And I did not know what I was gonna do with the pain because the pain was real and it was a process that.

But do you think it gets to be a loop to where. Cause I know for me it was like this excruciating pain. So I would have a drink to try to numb it out. I was self medicating.

Oh, yeah.

Then I'd wake up and it'd be even worse. And it just became this loop. And it's almost like your body, you're teaching your body.

Yes.

That you need the pain because you need that drink.

And it's scientifically proven it works.

See, I didn't even know that.

Yeah. Our neural pathways. So the more I took a narcotic, my neural pathways, the more the pain we're running was like, it was like a, like an ice freeway, you know, Boom. This is what it needs. It's not like, you know, like a bumpy road. Think of the. I like to visualize a dirt road and you're bouncing around and you're like, I'm just going to stop and go back. That's what it normally is. But you wear down those neural pathways and it goes, voom, this is what you need. And then you seek it. And I always say, no matter what we're doing, whether it be alcohol or narcotics or Adderall, methamphetamine, we, we want to vibrate somewhere. And people will choose a medication where they want to vibrate. And I wanted to vibrate out of pain, out of emotional pain. I had the physical pain, but when I stopped, it's amazing, that loop. I got the physical pain under control because then I had the time and the wherewithal. I wasn't medicated all the time going through this cycle where I could actually address and do the modalities that I needed. Biofeedback breathing, something very similar. Now when I feel dysregulated, I do birthday breathing, which is just blow out candles, boom, you're right back in your body, you're right back.

I love that. Breathing helps so much. Do you know when I can't sleep at night, I use the Calm app. Not affiliated with the Calm app, but I think you should sponsor the show, by the way.

Anyway, I love that, but I use it.

I use that app. And there is a simple meditation that starts with breathing. And I'll actually, I know you're supposed to meditate and actually be there, but it allows me to shut my mind off from thinking about, oh, I gotta do this tomorrow and this and I didn't do that. And this, like this loop of just non stop thinking that breathing just puts you right, puts you right back in your body so you can just relax, right?

And if we think about it, worry, doubt, fear keeps you in the bind, it keeps you in the struggle. If you want out of the struggle, you want to be in nurture and flow, which is breath work, waking up, being grateful, just, you know, I used to wake up 3, 4 in the morning vomiting for migraines. They were real. I was terrified to go to sleep at night. But now I wake up.

Because you knew you were going to wake up sick.

80% chance of the time. And the more narcotics I took, the more pain medicine, the refractory headaches filled in. Where I didn't have the actual migraine, I would have a refractory headache, which is equally as bad. And so you know the way out of that. Now I wake up and I open my eyes. I am so blessed. People say, how do you get up so early this morning? It was 2am California time. But it was 5 here and I'm like, oh, I got to sleep in. I'm like, wait a minute, I'm up at 2am But I get up that early because I'm so grateful to be here. Yeah, I didn't die. And I used to sign, sign away at the hospital that I wasn't going to survive the amount of narcotics they were giving me. 200,000 milligrams a month at home, 10 times that much in the hospital. They were giving it every hour for 10 days. 200 million.

Believable that they would send you home with that much.

Oh, well, yeah, I could get more if I had wanted. They said, we can't help you. We can make you comfortable, but we can't help you. And the thing of it is, I was terrified. This isn't. I never drank, I'd never done a drug. I this, I was a virgin to this process. And I was.

And it happened like that though, didn't it?

I woke up one day, I'm working and all of a sudden I can't get on airplanes. I'm getting stuck in cities, I'm vomiting on planes and they're like, you need. This is not good for anyone on the plane because there's a hyperemesis. I was on. Not to get too graphic, but I was sick and I went on that pilgrimage where I started seeking out. Really I would, you know, to tell you the truth, I'm gonna, I'm gonna have a moment here. I started seeking out holistic clinics. I had no intention on doing that. I did that so I can keep taking the medicine. So I can keep taking the medicine. Because I wasn't willing to give it up because I did not believe anything was going to help. I did not believe. I mean, I spent so much money going to England, Paris, and I'm like, it's not going to work. It's not going to work. Victoria, Canada, 10 days now. I use those modalities now, but when I left there, no, I went right back to the medicine. In fact, at a holistic clinic, they got me the medicine because I couldn't even participate because I was so sick. They're like, we're first time we've ever had to break the rules. I'm really that first time rule breaker because I was so convincing. And I look at it now and I think, wow, now use that for good. Don't use it to manipulate on what you needed. And that's when you know addiction is present. Because I absolutely would look at that and think, I'm sure that's going to help a lot of people. Biofeedback thingy, thingy.

Uh huh. And you know what though, they say that addicts make really good entrepreneurs because they are like, this is what I want and this is what I have to do to get it.

Yeah.

So they replace the drug or the alcohol or, you know, that makes sense.

With no shame. It makes sense because they're so ingenious and intuitive and they know what they want and they know how to get it. Because if there's anyone that's ever been in pain and needed, I mean, you're going to sit in an emergency room five hours and you're going to do what you need to do because you have an end result of what you're going to get. I don't know if I ever didn't get it. And that's. I look back and I think, wow, if you can channel that kind of energy into your business, which is what I did. It's hard to believe that I went through that, but it was the first time that I'm actually, I think when our, this conversation here is the first time I was aware, like consciously aware that I had no intention. All that money, all that time, those. I just knew it wasn't going to work. And I was in such fear. It wasn't like I was trying to dupe anybody. I was in so much fear. I was never willing to let go of what was working. I'm like, yeah, huh, maybe someday, but right now there's no way. And I would spin stories because that kept me safe. And when you have a safety wound and your fear in the world is you're not safe, you're going to do anything to be safe. And that's what I do.

It takes a strong person to let go, you know, And I think that there's a gift in desperation. And I know for me, I was to the point where I was so desperate that I was willing to do anything to stay sober. And so if my sponsor said do 50 jumping jacks and go run around the block chanting, I would have been like, okay, you got, you know. Yep. And so I think, I mean, you are such a beautiful example of what recovery in every way looks like with your transformation physically shifting, it'll keep shifting

from food to this. And I wasn't aware of that, that it would shift like that because I'd never had real problems there. But I thought, oh, I see, I see there's some shadow work still going. There's still some Things that need my attention.

And I think it's always a. I believe that we're always healing because there are.

Amen. I mean, that was my big wake up call. Like, oh, shizzle. This isn't going to stop. This is a for life job. I'm always going to have to surrender, give up. Because, you know, entrepreneurs also like, control. And I'm like, okay, surrender, surrender and navigate. And navigate with what we. And learn. I metabolize very quickly these days. It's like, oh, okay, left, the other left. Yeah. I let go very easily where I didn't let go before. There was always something that I needed to fix and do. I don't fix anything anymore.

Yeah.

It's like, hands off.

Well, I want to go back to your book.

Yeah.

Because I want to know, has it been like. It wasn't as hard for me to write my new book, but when I started reading it, yeah. I was like, oh, my gosh, I feel like I'm standing naked in the street. Cause I'm getting raw and real. Do you feel that way?

Well, you know, as this book is unfolding, I have two editors that are reading it back to me, what I'm saying, and I'm like, ooh, should we put that in there? You know, it's hard to believe I've been where I've been. It's been a big life. And people tend to look at the success and the.

They see you on social media, they see you on stage and they're like, oh, there's no way that she was ever that person. She's like, they can't imagine it.

No, they can't. And frankly, my whole life was full of chaos and dysfunction. I was deregulated and I come out of a home of an alcoholic. And that actually was my safer parent. So when you get catapulted in the world and you're not ready, you're going to cling to safety anywhere you can find it. So it was disaster after disaster. And any success I had, I was going to sabotage it. Because my level, we can only go as high as the worthiness we feel. And I didn't think I could maintain it. I'm like, well, yeah, who did that? Did I set those? I set records with the federal chamber that had never been broken. And I think, how did I do that? How did I do that? I thought everyone else was working as hard as me. I didn't think I had any talent. I didn't think I was smart enough. And I was certainly going to sabotage it to Prove it. And that's what we're going to do. So now I'm out to prove everything that I did was a lie and everything that I am, I'm embracing.

Yeah. Oh, I love that. I can't wait to read it. Well, I had a whole list of questions here for you and did we get that? Did we answer any of them? We didn't get to any of them. Just because you know what we. And we're almost out of time and we get together and we can just talk.

I know. Well, what's one thing you want to know? Anything.

Well, okay. What life and well being. We've talked a lot about that. How do you maintain now between your, you know, professional life and your personal well being? What would you suggest for somebody who struggles with that, who is a high achieving entrepreneur?

You know, I think that it has to go on our calendar and I have found we can't just think that joy is going to fall out of the sky or happiness or exercise. We're going to find time for it. And it's a, it kind of creeps up on you even now. I find myself 10, 15 hours at that. You know, I'm going around the time clock on the world with clients and now I do my. We have to build it in. It's got to go on your calendar and it cannot, it has to be important. Is it even more important than your money? Even more important than flying to Dallas? I know that I have to take care of myself. I know that when I get a break I've got to walk. I know what I need to do to stay healthy and that is a non negotiable. You don't negotiate with it.

I think it's important to know your non negotiables and then stick to it. And I write everything in my calendar, my paper calendar with a highlighter on. What's, what's for me, what's clients, what's events, what's interviews? And so if, if I didn't. Yeah, we were just talking before we started recording. I was like, if I didn't write stuff down, I wouldn't, I wouldn't even remember. So I have to write everything down.

I tell my team that my calendar is my bible. I mean I look at that and everything that's written in there I believe. And today it was a little off. But guess what? Yeah, the universe believed that. Oh, we're going to do this and we're going to give her a little few seconds, surprises along the way. What do you want?

Your legacy to be.

Ah. I want my children to heal because. Yeah, that's a big one. Heal from what I put them through. Because I see different versions of myself. I see different versions of myself that I can see that they have to cope with. And if I could show them a better way and stop generational trauma. I mean, that's overuse generation. Well, but stop the cycle.

You're doing it.

Yeah.

You are doing it.

I'm doing it. I'm living it. Yeah.

Yeah, you're living it.

Yeah.

Oh, that just touched me so much. Well, on a lighter note, do you have any upcoming events or exciting things? I know you have a big birthday coming up.

I do, I do. Let's see. I have Chicago. I launched, and, you know, it came out of coming here, and it was so inspired. I thought, you know what? Let's go to Chicago and do VIP days. And I'm. I put it out there. It's sold out in 48 hours. So I have clients flying in, and I'm doing extraordinary VIP days that I built out for each one of them for a week. And. And then on the 8th, I'm going to celebrate. I'm going to celebrate my birthday.

Yeah.

And big one. It's a big one.

Everyone is a big one, though. Every. Every one is a year worth celebrating. But I'm to the point where I'm like, wait, how old am I? I forget. I'm like, yeah.

How.

Oh, my gosh. How did it.

It just goes by so fast.

It snakes up.

Yeah. It goes by so fast.

Well, where do you envision your work kind of evolving over the next next year? 5 year, 10 years?

Interesting you say that because I feel. And you. We talked about this earlier. It's already evolving. It's already moving and shifting and forming. And you know what? I interviewed Craig Siegel the other day, and he goes, you know, Dana, be married to the process. Divorce the outcome. And I liked that. I liked that. And I thought. And you mentioned the other day, and I think I spoke on the. On stage, that God doesn't waste pain. He didn't waste this. And this evolution is exactly the way it needs to be. And if we accept that, we stay out of the shame and we keep moving forward. So I'm not. I don't see the outcome, but I have goals, but mainly I just. I just want to stay the course.

Yeah.

And that just means trusting that every door that opens is for me, every door that shuts is not without any angst. It doesn't mean that I'm not sad. For a day. But I move very quickly these days. It's like, teach me something. What do I need to know? And that's my favorite line. What do I need to know? What do I need to know so I can move faster but slower.

Yeah. Yeah. My friend Rachel Luna just did a post about that today. I don't know.

And I was, like, finally guided.

Yeah. Yeah, she really is. Well, tell everybody where they can find you the best place to find out about your coaching, where they'll be able to find your book soon. And where do you hang out most on social media?

Oh, gosh, probably so. I love the Gram. My daughter say, don't call it the IG or Instagram. It's the Gram, so.

Oh, wow. Yeah. Learn something new every day.

Yeah, the Gram. And yeah, I like to answer my own messages. I like to leave people messages. I like to inspire out there. And if they leave me a message, it's going to be me that gives that that message back. They can find me@danny grant.com if they want to go to Italy next year and planning an Italy retreat. I don't know. I'm thinking of another one. I'm thinking of walking the Camino. I. I've got some big things that are churning right now, but this year they can. Yeah, find me online. Find me.

Well, thank you so much for being on the show.

Thank you, Amberly. I love you.

Oh, I love you.

I'm so happy to be here.

So glad you're here. And thank y' all so much for tuning in this week. Make sure to like and subscribe. And you know what? If you found value in this, take a screenshot and share it on your on the Gram. Not Instagram, on the Gram. And you can tag me at Amberly Lagomotivation. And, Dana, tell them your handle.

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