“You are crazy.”

“You are just insecure and jealous.”

“You are too sensitive and you are overreacting.”

“It was just a joke. You have no sense of humor.”

“You are the problem here, not me.”

“But what about your issues?”

“You’re the only one that thinks like that'”

“Look at all I do for you. What more do you want from me?”

If so, you are probably dealing with a NARCISSIST.

This week, I’m welcoming my good friend Rebecca Zung to the show for a revealing discussion on how to deal with narcissists, negotiate better, uncover how to deal with a toxic relationship and so much more.

Something we don’t often talk about on this show is what to do when you are in a toxic relationship (personal, business, or otherwise) and need the tools to get out. But it’s something that most of us face at some point in our lives and it can really test our grit and grace.

Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News & World Report as a “Best Lawyer in America”, as “Legal Elite” by Trend Magazine, and recognized by her peers and the judiciary as AV(c), preeminent rated in family law, the highest possible rating for an attorney by Martindale Hubbell. But her journey wasn’t always easy. Married at 19 the first time, she had 3 children by the age of 23 and then was a divorced single mom when she decided to go back to law school. She went from being a single mom, college dropout, to becoming one the most powerful lawyers in the country at the helm of a multi-million dollar practice. She is now committed to sharing her secrets and empowering others to live their lives at their optimum level of success, professionally and personally.

She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought after major media contributor. Her perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among others.
Now, Rebecca remains a partner in Long, Murphy & Zung, and is based in Los Angeles and Florida. She is continuing to serve through her incredible on-demand programs such as S.LA.Y. Your Negotiation With a Narcissist, and the Divorce Delete-Alt-Control Masterclasses. She is also the host of the popular show Negotiate Your Best Life™ which is available on YouTube and as a Top Podcast, and also is a frequent keynote speaker.
In this episode Rebecca shares how to identify when you are dealing with a narcissist, how to build your confidence to negotiate for what you want, and the keys to navigating challenging relationships in all situations.


Here’s what you will learn:

  • What is a narcissist? (3:20)
  • Navigating narcissism in the workplace (12:54)
  • Negotiating with a narcissist (21:40)
  • Begin to build your confidence (31:27)
  • The importance of not defending yourself (37:29)
  • How SLAY works in negotiation (44:33)

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