5 Simple Keys to Unlock More Joy in Your Journey with Amberly Lago

Welcome to the Amberly Lago Show. Stories of true grit and grace. Hey there. Thank you so much for tuning in to the Amberly Lago Show, y'. All. This is the official last episode of 2024 and it's also Christmas, so Merry Christmas, Happy holidays. Because it is Christmas, I wanted to drop in and just make an episode for you, from my heart to yours, to spark more, more joy for the holiday season and throughout 2025. And I have some good news to share with you. If you didn't know, my newest book, Joy through the Journey, is now available. Y'. All. This has been a sticky note on my computer for two years, and then it took me months to, of getting up at 4 o' clock in the morning to make sure I wrote out everything, everything that I have learned through life's ups and downs, through living with chronic pain on a daily basis, which still allows me to spark joy. And I, I remember being in physical therapy once and there was a guy that wanted to come and meet me because he had a similar accident to me and I could barely walk. And I remember walking in a circle, well, kind of hobbling around in a circle. And I had the biggest smile on my face and I was so happy just to be on my feet beat. And the guy looked at my physical therapist and he's like, what's wrong with her? Does she not know how bad this is, how serious this is? Like, what's wrong with her? So through every situation, through challenges with work or with my health, in this past year, I've still been able to spark joy. And I want to share how I've been able to do that with you. So no matter what you're going through, you can embrace the present moment. You can create and cultivate more resilience to get through, through the journey, especially if you're an entrepreneur, especially if you live with chronic pain like me, or especially if you are a mom and a wife or a husband and, you know, and, and you're, you're trying to do all the things because I know I'm trying to do all the things. And it's so important to have, you know, joy along the journey to really enjoy the journey. And, you know, recently, if you watch my social media, then you already know that I lost my little Goldie bear, my little two and a half pound dog. She was 14. And it was very unexpected. Even though she was a little, a little old lady, the way that she passed away was very traumatic and very, very unexpected. And she was just my love who would have thought a little two and a half pound ball of fur could give you so much love. And I knew it was going to be hard when we lost her, but I didn't think it was going to be this hard, y'. All. I could not stop crying. I. It was. I'm the one that found her, and I could not stop crying. And in that moment, I just wanted to stop crying. It wasn't that I was trying to not acknowledge the feelings, but I was like, I just want to stop crying for a little bit. Can I please have some joy at this moment? And so what I did in that moment was I thought, okay, what is going to bring me some joy despite this pain I'm going through? And I thought, I'm going to put up my Christmas tree because that brings me joy. And I started putting up my Christmas tree and decorated my whole house for Christmas earlier than I had ever I've ever done before. And I put the Christmas tree where Goldie's bed usually was, and that allowed me to stop crying for a bit. And it did bring me some joy. And then I thought, well, I'm still crying now. I need to spark more joy. What can I do? And I was like, you know what? I got to go out there and do some joy spotting. And what I mean by joy spotting is I wanted to look for things that brought me joy, whether it was, you know, a beautiful blue sky, a butterfly, hearing a song, seeing somebody I knew. And so I thought, I'm going to go to HomeGoods because I need to be connected with some people and smile at them and see them smile back at me. And whatever we seek, we will find. It's kind of like I remember when I was pregnant, and all of a sudden, all I saw everywhere I went was pregnant women. I was like, golly, there's so many pregnant people. I remember when I wanted to get a new car, everywhere I looked, I saw that car when I never noticed them before. So what you really seek out and what is on your mind and what you're thinking constantly, that is what you are going to find. And so I was on a mission to go find joy. And guess what I saw the first thing that I saw when I walked into HomeGoods, a little sign that said joy. And I thought, thank you, God. That's a. That's a God wink. And every person that I saw in the store, I intentionally smiled at them. I asked them how they were doing. I striked up a conversation, and you know what? Just feeling connected like that. And Seeing their smiles back at me, that brought me joy. So go move your body. You don't have to sit still. Moving your body moves your mood. Change your environment. Do something that sparks joy, whether that is going for a walk, whether it's calling a friend, whether it's getting up and dancing, whether it's going barefoot and walking across your lawn, whether it's going out and being kind to strangers and smiling so you can see them smile back, whether you know, it's choosing to be a joy sparker. And I wanted to give you five, five things, five things that you can do throughout the holiday season, especially if it's a hard one, or just things that you can do throughout 2025 to have more joy throughout your journey of life's ups and downs. So, number one, it's, it's your perspective, shifting your perspective, and it's transforming challenges into growth. Whether that is, you know, a failure or whether that is, you know, you lost your job. I tell you what, what, what? Instead of saying, oh, I failed at this, well, what can you learn from this? I remember, you know, when I was out of work and I couldn't train clients anymore in the fitness industry, it just wasn't working out for me to change or to train 12 to 14 clients a day. And I was really sad about that for a while until I thought about, well, I, maybe I can't train clients on my feet for 12 to 14 hours a day, but what can I do? What does spark joy? And it allowed me to go, well, I love working with people and it allowed me to go, you know what, I can train clients in another way. I can do more business training. I help so many trainers with their business. I can just shift that into entrepreneurial ship. And you know what? It has taken me on such a wild, exciting journey of now I have my mastermind now I get to speak across the country in, in different countries. I spoke in France last year. And so open your mind to what can you learn from it, how can you grow from it, and what else might you be able to do? So also the role of being in the present, be in the present moment. I tend to think about things that are in the future, especially when I have big speaking events coming up or deadlines and that makes me worry or get anxious. I sometimes think about, oh, I could have done that better, or thinking about mistakes I made in not a great way, and I have to go, how can I be in the present moment right now? Because that's all we really have. The past is the Past, it's happened, we can't change it. There's nothing we can do about what we did. There's not really much we could predict about the future. We're not in control. But what we can do is be in the present moment. And I have had to really. With a lot of big events coming up and starting in January, I am going to be traveling non stop, y'. All. I'm going to be in Minnesota, in New York, in San Diego, in Los Angeles, and I'll be in Arizona. I will be in Vegas. I mean, I'm, I, I'm going to be all over the place. And I tend to get in my head about what am I going to wear for this event? Oh, do I have that keynote down? I get anxious. So I would be in bed at night with my heart beating a mile a minute and I'm like, this is not joyful right now. I need to be in the present moment and focus on, I have a comfy, warm bed to sleep in, A, a roof over my head. And then I have the Calm app. Now, I'm not affiliated with the Calm app. There are so many different apps out there that have great meditations. They, they allow me to really plug one in and listen and get in the present moment. There's one I do on the Calm app and it really, it's getting in touch with your body. So it's getting in, like focusing on feeling your feet, focusing on going all the way up your legs to your heart, to your head, and then doing a breathing technique. And the breathing technique is just, you know, breathing in for eight counts, holding it for seven counts. And. No, actually, I'm sorry, I got that wrong. It's breathing in for four, holding it for eight, letting it out for seven, something like that, Y', all, I get it wrong. That's why I use the app, because I need somebody to guide me on this. So it does get you in the present moment. And I promise you, if you can do anything like that, if you're in bed and you can't shut your mind off, well, I do a brain dump. Look, here's my brain dump on my desk right now. I do a brain dump so I don't have to think about it when I get in bed. But if I'm still thinking about things that I'm getting nervous about, I use an app to help me with that. Another, another thing that you can do for mindfulness is do the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 method. So what I mean by that is getting in the present Moment is what is one thing that you can see? Like, just be aware of your surroundings. What's one thing you can see? Whether it's a bird flying by, whether it's a beauty. Like in my office, I have beautiful plants focusing on the plants. Focus. Focusing on our waterfall outside. What's saying one thing that you can touch to get in the present moment. What. What is one thing that you can hear? I have wind chimes outside, and that reminds me I am in the present moment. I can hear a beautiful wind chime. It actually reminds me of my stepdaddy Dwight that. That passed away. What's one thing you can smell? Oh, my goodness. Smell is so powerful. We were in Walmart. Yeah, I was in Walmart with Ruby last night, and we were looking for a gift for her best friend, and I smelled this one lotion that reminded me of a smell of some medicine that I had to take when I was a little girl. And I. I got physically. I started gagging. Smell is powerful. So make sure it's a smell in a good way. And then taste. What's one thing that you can taste? Is it your delicious hot coffee? Is it, you know, a mint that you put in your mat? What? So 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. To get you in the present moment. And again, like headspace or the calm app can offer practical, guided, you know, mindfulness activities for you to really get in the present moment. I think in my book, I talk so much about gratitude, I had to to. So the next thing, number three is gratitude. And I had to edit the index, and I was like, wow, I didn't realize how much I talked about gratitude in this book, but gratitude sparks joy. When you're grateful, you do not have time. You don't feel fear. You don't feel anxious. You don't feel sadness. Try it. If you're grateful, you can't feel any other thing except for gratitude and joy. And so how it gratitude. It. It really activates ne the neural pathways that strengthen emotional resilience, and it helps you bounce back faster from stress. So I journal every morning a gratitude. You know what? Maybe I'll just share that with you. So I have an app. Again, I'm not affiliated with this. This app, but it's called my spiritual toolkit. They have tools on there. And you can go to a gratitude list, and I'll just read you. You can list 10. I'll just read you a few things today, December 17, that I'm recording this, but Merry Christmas. It's coming out on the 25th. December 17th. Another day. Number one, I wrote down another day to wake up hangover free and clear, a great morning meeting, and am sober. Fellas, I have grown to love. Number three, Ruby got medicine she needs for tonsillitis. Number four, almost done with Christmas shopping. Number five, Savannah sends me cute pics of tofu. Number six, a meeting with my team that I love working with. Number seven, I recorded two interviews yesterday. Number eight, hot coffee. Number nine, I got paid for an event, and it's helping cover bills for my own annual event. Number 10, all of you and being connected daily. So that was my gratitude list. It's not extravagant. It's simple, but it put me in the moment of all the good that is going on in my life. I encourage you to not just write your gratitude, but to express it. Maybe have some, like I call my group of ladies. I share that through the app. I share it with my God squad, and I get to read what they're grateful for as well. Because it's one thing to feel it, it's one thing to write it down, it's one thing to express it, and it's so powerful, and it shifts your perspective when you can read what somebody else is grateful. And so I really encourage you to practice gratitude. Journal it. Think about one thing that you're grateful for when you go to bed at night and what's the best thing that happened to you, because that really sets your subconscious up in a way that prepares you to be even more grateful the next day. And so really share your gratitude. And then one other thing about gratitude. I would really highly suggest sending out one to hopefully three text messages to people that pop in your head or that you're really thinking about and tell them what you see in them and what you're grateful for. You have no idea how that could just shift their day to hear from you. So number four, finding joy in small wins. Look progress over perfection. And it doesn't have to be some huge paycheck in the mail or some big, big award that you won or. Look, it wasn't about finishing my whole manuscript to turn into my publisher. I had to celebrate the small wins along the way, which was I promised myself that I would write two chapters a week. And then I celebrated. Hallelujah. I did two chapters of the book. I'm getting closer. When I. When I got out of the hospital, let me tell you, I. I SME. I set small attainable goals. And one of my goals that I really celebrated, and this might seem kind of silly, but it was a Big. A big goal for me at the time, but it's small, looking back was I wanted to be able to use the bathroom on my own. I couldn't even stand up and I had to use a bed pan. So I celebrated the small goals along the way of being able to stand on one leg with crutches for, for one second at a time. And then I set a goal of, okay, tomorrow I am going to stand up no matter how painful it is. I'm going to count 1100-021000-31000, and stand up for three seconds at a time tomorrow. Then it was 10 seconds. And then my goal was to be able to stand up long enough to walk on crutches across the living room, down a short hallway and into the bathroom and use the bathroom on my. On my own. If I would have set a goal of I'm running a marathon, it was just. That was unattainable. I'd probably still be in a hospital bed depressed about it. But by setting these small attainable goals and celebrating those goals along the way, I was able to make progress and focus on the progress and not perfection along the way. So, you know, celebrate the small things one client, one coaching client at a time. Instead of thinking on, I need to have 30 coaching clients celebrate that. You got one coaching client and send them a thank you note in the mail or reach out to them by text and celebrate their wins. Which leads me to number five, connection and contribution. Let me tell you, I feel like true joy for me and fulfillment for me is really celebrating others and being of service to others and their success. That is where true fulfillment really is for me. It's that connection. Like when I went into the store, just to be able to smile at people and see them smile back. And it's the contribution. How can you go help somebody? I learned in recovery a long time ago that what you give away, you get to keep. And that might seem kind of like a weird thing to say, but I get to keep my sobriety because I give it away. When I can go out there and be of service to other people in recovery, other, you know, recovering alcoholics, then I get to keep my sobriety. When I get to go to meetings and contribute and be there for others, to be there for a newcomer or just to have fellowship before and after a meeting, I get to stay sober. I had a client a long time ago and she told me, she goes, you know, I'm just not happy. I'm actually board. And I said, why don't you go Volunteer some somewhere. And she goes, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. I said, but there are soup kitchens, there's mentoring, there's environmental projects. Go be of service. Because that is really the gateway to true fulfillment, happiness, and sparking more joy. And so I think random acts of kindness wherever you go, maybe you can't go out there and volunteer, but you can vol listening. I remember being stuck in the hospital bed and I was still able to, you know, be of service. And people go, well, how could you be of service when you were stuck in a hospital bed? Let me tell you. I was still writing out nutrition plans for clients. I was setting up clients and their plans with other trainers. I was even talking to nurses. They had a little chair in the corner of my room and this curtain that they would pull over and pull shut, and they would plop themselves down and just be exhausted and just sometimes cry to me or just tell me what was going on in their life. And I was just there to listen. And that was my way that I could contribute and be of service. So how can you create a weekly check in with a loved one or with a friend? You know, I have friends that were also diagnosed with complex regional pain syndrome. And you know, my good friend David, who has, he was diagnosed with crps, just had. Just had a heart attack. And we keep in touch and he's actually been a guest on the podcast when it was true Grit grace. He's got an amazing story, but just being able to check in with him often, to check in with my other friend Kelly, who is a CRPS warrior and is battling a major flare up right now. Kelly, I don't know if you're listening, but I love you and my heart goes out to you and I'm praying for speedy recovery and that that flare up goes away completely. So how can you act, you know, practice random acts of kindness? How can you reach out to somebody who might need you, who might need some support? I think it's one reason why people ask me what I'm most passionate about, and I tell them I love speaking, but the reason I love speaking is because I love. It's the connection. I love connecting with an audience. I love connecting with people after I speak and hearing their stories. Because everyone has a story, you have a story, and your story is important, and you are perfectly qualified to go help someone that is struggling with something that you have already been through and you've gotten to the other side. So go start sharing your story, whether that's through social media, whether that's at your church, whether that's at a recovery meeting or whether, whether that's just with a friend, but reach out to someone. And again, there are. These are the five ways just part little, small part of my book, Joy through the journey to cultivate more resilience and embrace the present moment. And so, number one, it's the power of perspective. Number two, it's the role of presence. Getting into the present moment, getting grounded. Whatever you need to do, stay grounded. Number three, practice gratitude. Cultivating daily gratitude. Number four, find joy in the small wins. I really encourage you to celebrate the small wins. When I was a fitness trainer, it wasn't about I'm going to celebrate when I lose 50 pounds or I'm going to celebrate when I gain 3% more muscle mass. No, it's celebrating the weekly win of if you lost half a pound in that week or if you lost £1 in one month. It's celebrating every small win along the way. So find joy in those small wins. And it is connection and contribution. Be connected. Stay connected. Look, grit without connection is just resilience. It's not joy. Grit with connection. That is where you're going to spark joy. That is where you're going to cultivate more resilience. So I encourage you to really implement these things into your life and so you could thrive in 2025. Thank you so much for tuning into the show. Please make sure you are subscribed to the show and I would love for you to write a review for the show that really helps more people find the show. But it also I read every one of those and it helps me to see what really reson with you more. 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